Who cares!
The mentioned survey was circulating on FB a while ago. I took a glimpse and decided to skip it. What's the point? I have heard enough whining and bitching for the past three years, nothing new, and it is not going to change.
People quit everything: jobs, relationships/love, hobbies and sometimes their own lives. Things don't work out? Quit. Easiest solution. In this culture, few people seem to understand "no pain, no gain.".
Tango bliss doesn't come like a snap of fingers. Just because once out of blue moon, some dreamy dancer comes from other planet dances a blissful tanda with you by accident, then you are entitled to that blissful moment every time you dance? Wake up, people.
People demand a lot before they pay their own dues. Have you learned to stand on your own foot without losing balance? Have you learned how to embrace a person? Have you learned how to walk grounded without your partner feeling like hitting a pothole every step of the way?
The thing is that in order to truly enjoy tango, one has to invest a lot of time, mind, energy and money. You want to dance the top level in three years, you better have a athletic body, decent musicality, learn astutely from a few excellent teachers and dance four times a week, 52 weeks a year.
Otherwise, just accept the fact that you would be dancing with the rest of the people in the milongas, at your level. If you think that dancing with the others at your own level is a torture, an unpleasant experience, then strive to be a better dancer and work harder and smarter to get to the next level where dance experience is better. Too much work and not worth it? Then quit.
You are not going to be missed by anyone.
Cruelty? Yes, but also reality. Or maybe it is a blessing in disguise. You stop wasting your life on some hobby that you are not cut out for. There are more important and meaningful things in life than a stupid dance, right?
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9 comments:
TP, You sound just a little cranky!
But I know what you mean. The only reason it matters to me, is that if too many people are discouraged and dropping out, and talking about it all with complaints galore, then we are in danger in smaller communities of simply dying out. That would be very bad for me, as I am at home here! But some of these people are hopeless. They don't really want to do the work as you express so well.
I am always cranky while I am not dancing. LOL.
But seriously, to ever change that, it requires huge collective effort. And I just don't see how it could be done in the near future.
Now I am not only cranky but also pessimistic. :-)
I think you just said s**t or get off the pot. Or stop whining and DO something. If I get bored or am not happy with something I either change it or do something else for awhile. Tango will always be there and no one will miss you when you are gone anyway.
Arlene,
exactly...do whatever the heart tells you to do and do it. Everything else falls into place naturally.
Thanks for the comment.
I totally disagree with NYCTango Pilgrim. He sounds like he's one of the tango snobs in New York, where the tango community is very closed and brutal. In my opinion, how well a person dance tango has nothing to do with how much time, money and efforts he/she put in. Those who dances for a long time, taking a lot of classes with best teachers are not necessary a good tango dancers. Tango is like any other art forms, talent does count a lot. Discriminating a new comer (maybe a great dancer from a foreign land) is very narrow minded, arrogant and full of bias. It creates an unwelcoming atmosphere that drives people especially women out of the "circle" due to frustration and humiliation and imbalance of gender. What I don't like is that men, no matter of his age, looks, dancing skills, are in upper hands only because there are always more men than women, not because they are better dancers. Of course, women quit after a while. why should women take the shit from those guys who think the are the "better" dancers.
Nothing is black and white... stay tuned. :-)
No, Anon,
A man can do nothing in tango without the women. They do not have the "upper hand" at all.
E,
You are absolutely right. Without the woman, man is nothing, absolutely nothing in tango. I 've traveled around the world, just to dance with good women. In my opinion, women have more power than men in Tango, just that most of the women haven't realized that yet. Thank GOD!!!!! :-)
Tango, after all,and if one gets it, is all about the woman. But please keep it as a secret. Some women might get the wrong idea and start getting snobbish. :P
>He sounds like he's one of the tango snobs in New York, where the tango community is very closed and brutal
Funny how I never felt the NYC tango community was closed or brutal. Not even when I was a beginner visiting from Boston. They will not go out of their way to befriend you, true, but why the hell they would do it? It's YOU who wants to be "in", so you try. I am so sick of people complaining about communities not jumping at the "chance" of befriending them.
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